Monday, March 2, 2009

Secret 8: Selecting Empowering Partnerships and Alliances

To date I have never had any partnerships or alliances although as I am writing this I am changing the context and coming up with a different answer.

In my past I have always worked in corporate america and my father always told me 'to hire a good boss'. I have since discovered it is not possible. But if I adapt this chapter to apply of my past I have had partnerships and alliances with my previous bosses. And most have not been good. So far I have discovered I give my power away in these situations which always ends bad.

Now I focus on relationships that enrich both sides, and don't have any second questioning involved. Although this seems to be a hard lesson for me to learn as I removed myself out of a bad situation this past October 08. I had to be talked into the offer and grieved what I was perceiving as lossing. All seemed fine on the surface but underneath were hidden issues either of us expected. When it finally came to blows the issues had piled up so high that I couldn't tell you what happened, I just didn't know. Now looking back I didn't get what I was doing and could not communicate what I needed effectively. I was resenting my bosses attitude and diva ways, not feeling part of a team and when the time came I was thrown under the bus. It has been a hard lesson and I am still looking for the grace of it. Any Suggestions?

I am going to set aside the collaboration profile used in the book and apply it situations arise.

1 comment:

  1. Of course, I know personally one of the best bosses you ever had. I see her smiling face in that profile picture here :)